Hey Guys,
So tonight I saw the movie called Eat Pray Love, based on the novel of the same name by Elizabeth Gilbert. I just finished the book about two days ago and have to tell you the amazing impact it had on my life. Basically Elizabeth hits rock bottom after she decides, she no longer wants to be married to her husband. She travels to three places, Italy, India and Indonesia, to learn how to experience pleasure, devotion and balance. It’s a great book and movie and I definitely recommend seeing and reading both of them.
After recent events, I had felt very empty and alone with myself. For the first time I had questions about who and what I wanted to be. What did I want to do? Where was my life heading? After reading how someone else dealt with these issues, I began to form my own answers. While I haven’t figured out everything, I have learned and believe in a few great key points that Gilbert talks about in the book.
1. You are the most important person to you. Caring and learning and taking time for yourself is not selfish. After all, how can you be anything to anyone without being the best you, you can be.
2. When people (myself included) are in a relationship, they often shape the other person’s thoughts and goals into what they want instead of what their partner really wants. I’ve done this a lot and it never works out. At the end of the day, the person you’re with has their own ideas and wishes. Constant communication is the only way to find out what these ideas are and to see if yours coincide.
3. Learn to let go of worry and doubt. Worry literally accomplishes nothing. If you’re going to worry, set aside time. After you’ve given the situation some thought, move on. Sometimes listening to music helps me get my head clear and then I just do something else constructive. This is very hard to do and I am trying everyday to just let things be. The world around you will change like it or not, the only thing you have power over is you.
4. Love yourself. This one is harder than it seems. I am very hard on myself when it comes to a multitude of subjects. My looks, my strengths and weaknesses, my emotions, are all under constant scrutiny from my own mind. The way I deal with this now is to either find the things I do like about myself and focus on that, or help others to realize things that are great about them. Seeing others happy, makes me happy. Saying I am beautiful or “I look good today” is very hard. Everyday I’m getting closer though.
While I may not have gone on a worldwide journey like Gilbert, I have been on my own kind of journey. I used to get upset about it and I know there will be times when I will again. Now however, I can find reasons to be grateful for it and I will know how to combat bad feelings if the return. I hope some of this will help you guys and if it does, please let me know.
I want you to know that all of you Kids Undercover are beautiful. I never want you to think of me as larger than life, I’m not concerned with being a “rock star”. I want to be approachable. Talk to me, share your stories and you’re knowledge.
Love,
Mike Wolf xoxo
PS. Have you seen or read Eat Pray Love? What do you think about it?
